"ENFP" Themes and Relationships
By Linda V. Berens Ph.D. and Dario Nardi Ph.D.
||ENFP - Discoverer Advocate
|Likely Social Style:
- Theme is inspiration, both of themselves
- Talents lie in grasping
profound significance, revealing truths,
and motivating others.
- Very perceptive
of others’ hidden motives and purposes.
- Interested in everything about individuals
and their stories as long as they are
- Contagious enthusiasm for
“causes” that further good and develop
latent potential and the same zeal for
disclosing dishonesty and inauthenticity.
- Frequently moved to enthusiastically
communicate their “message.”
Themes and Relationships
for each Personality Type
by Linda V. Berens, Ph.D.
Dario Nardi, Ph.D.**
For Discoverer Advocates, life is a process of inspiring
and facilitating others to find and reach their full potential.
They have a talent for seeing the core of someone,
the unspoken essential goodness. They become the
spokesperson for others, for what is needed most and for
their higher purpose. They enjoy exploring perceptions
and sharing deep emotional content, the “real stuff.” This
sharing is a magic moment when they truly connect. They
constantly seek to have ideal relationships where they can
have many ideal moments. To not have these empathic
moments is like being cut off from themselves.
Life is like a story. Stories provide ways to find
meaning and to make a difference and provide the
connecting thread that helps them know and understand
others and work through situations.
Their thought processes seem random; however,
they are connective and relational. They are able to
mediate differences and conflict by seeing the ways the
differences connect. They often become the “voice” for
the unspoken meanings they so easily pick up. They
strive to keep communication channels open to make the
best of a situation. They have a way of making things
work without knowing why, which gives them the air
of being magical as they respond courageously to their
insights. The creative process is an important part of
In the interpersonal arena, they often instantly
like people or not. Liking the people they are with is
important. With their talent for seeing what’s not being
said, they often respond to others’ needs while putting
their own needs and wants on hold. They like to spark
something in others that others don’t see in themselves.
They must be able to authentically live with themselves
and seek to recognize happiness wherever it is.
They often feel a strong need to discover a
definitive direction for themselves. They want the
magical situation to be permanent so are paradoxically
on a continual quest for direction, resulting in a feeling
For Discoverer Advocates, relationships are about being
on the same wavelength. People often get the sense
they are understood perfectly by them. They are so
perceptive in the moment that they read and mirror the
other person’s mood, the meanings of the other person’s
behavior, and when they’re on, they’re really right and
everything feels in sync. The downside is they can make
a lot of assumptions and projections that are sometimes
really wrong. They can establish rapport instantly, can be
charming and flirtatious in a way that uniquely connects
with the other person. They frequently do whatever it
takes to understand the deep meaning in what others
do. Others may feel strangely connected with them, as
if they have known them forever, and yet know nothing
about them. They are uncanny at being the center
of attention without being the topic of conversation.
Getting at deep issues is important to them, and in the
process, they are often catalysts for change. They want
everyone to engage.
In their close relationships, they are romanticizing
and idealistic. They want to share interests, ideas,
and activities. Their ideal is a twin-like relationship,
participating with each other, sharing the experience of
it, where the relationship is real-time, live and in-person,
with each other’s beliefs the same. When that ideal
connection is not there, they can become disillusioned
and disappointed. They are often supportive of their
partner’s efforts to develop his or her potential and want
to be supported and nurtured in return.
This concludes "Themes and Relationships for ENFP,"
A Personality Type Description.
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