What's It Like To Be an "ENFP"
A Self-Portrait Personality Type Description for ENFPs**
By Linda V. Berens Ph.D. and Dario Nardi Ph.D.
||ENFP - Discoverer Advocate
|Likely Social Style:
I have to be directly in contact with
people and know that somehow I am
influencing what happens for them in a
positive way. That is a kind of driving
force in my life, actualizing potential,
giving encouragement, letting people
know what I think they can do. I have
been told I have this uncanny ability to absolutely zero in
on and intuit what people need. I sometimes recognize
something about them that they have not said to anybody
else. And they say, “How did you know?”
Personality Type Descriptions by
Linda V. Berens, Ph.D. and
Dario Nardi, Ph.D.**
I see myself as a facilitator. It’s not about imposing
what I want to see happen, although I have some grand
ideal of everyone having a better life or feeling better or
dealing with a particular issue. Being able to understand
people in depth gives me a feeling I have been friends
with them forever, and when I act too much that way,
they may not be able to handle it. But I feel sad when I
see potential in someone and they are either denying it
or not able to access it in some way. I’m very sensitive
too, but sometimes easily discouraged, and I still go on
thrilled to meet new people, with an interest in assisting
them in whatever they are seeking. I give them both
knowledge and meaning. I bring a fresh perspective and
my appreciation for people’s goodness.
If I’m stuck for hours working at a monotonous
task, I get peculiar, zonky, and weird. I get very tired if I
can’t get out and exchange information. I’ll lack bounce,
the bubbling of ideas that makes me run through life. I
absolutely have to have a fulfilling job or I get depressed.
I want to use my talents, make a difference, and have
autonomy. If not, I struggle to retain a sense of self and
it’s like my spirit is dying.
People talk about being drawn to me. Friends are
so important to me and I have good intentions. I like
to think I’ll do whatever I can do to hold on to them,
but often I don’t get around to writing or calling. They
know that if they create a friendship with me, then the
friendship is going to be intense and loyal and I will
be there for them when they really need me. And I can
engage with people that I care about who are a distance
away and feel like they are a part of my life on an
ongoing basis, picking up a lot of feeling from what they
write or when they call. It would be easier to spin straw
into gold than be totally alone.
As a kid I did a lot of imaginary things. It’s like
acting. I am very enthusiastic about many different
things and very romantic. I have a child-like quality and
like to get others roped into that too. Fun is a feeling of
satisfaction as opposed to just an activity, the feeling of
being able to smile all the time and get others to smile.
What’s fun is watching other people find out they can
really do something they otherwise never thought of
themselves as capable of doing.
I have a strong sense of ethics and fairness and I
can be a little too aware of an imbalance. I am a perfect
mimic. I can be someone else and get enormous insight
about that person, and I want to tell them about it. I
admire authenticity, the person who can just be, and
speaking the truth with clarity and tact, to get this magic
bond where we are transfixed in that moment. That’s
something I seek.
The way to tick me off is to either do something
really unethical or question my integrity. I get very
annoyed when people jump me for not doing things
their way, but I often don’t defend myself because I fear
losing control. I’d rather be in control when I talk to
them about the situation. They don’t know what effect
they’re having and it tears me up inside. It makes me
crazy if I am in conflict with someone who wants to walk
away and I need to engage with them until we work it
out. I need to be supported, not just always the giver and
catalyst. And I need contact—emotional, intellectual,
just words—for fun and connection.
I remember this wonderful little boy, but he was
conning everyone. I kept looking straight at him, “in
the soul,” and finally he put his hands up over his eyes
and said, “You’ve got to quit looking at me like that. I
can look at people like that, but you can’t look at me like
that.” And I completely understood him and I said, “I
know who you are, and it’s not bad. It’s good, you’re
good, and you have promise.” That’s what people don’t
want to hear—I see you, I value you, I care what you’ll
become, and I wish to be a part of that if you need me.
This concludes "What's it like to be an ENFP,"
A Self Portrait Personality Type Description.
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